聽了教授的生路歷程,「目的」與「目的地」是否重要?
高中未畢業,浪費了些時間,其後大學主修是但,兩年後覺不合適,退學了。另一位在家坐了兩年仍不願找工作,故進修,連博士論文也是與女友合作以成。
在我們的文化裡,直接是應該的,目標是清晰的,一切從三歲我的志願開始。大學時想用一年的時間作交換生,換來卻是「那麼要多花一年時間讀書,值得嗎?」「是體驗。」「去旅行也能體驗,不用花一年。」
把工作放下出國讀書,我也回答過無數次這類問題「畢業後,對工作有何幫助?」「能賺錢嗎?」「回來後想做什麼?」其實我沒有答案。其實回來後我仍是一個班主任。「這樣,你為什麼要去?」
來到這裡,見的人多了,每人的故事也大不同。但無論他們來自那裡,他們的路就是一點也不直接。大學讀了五年也尚未讀完,只因想到處走走; 碩士明明一年便畢業,偏偏要慢慢分三年讀,為的是想慢慢過日子。我從未聽過的答案。
最初我以為他們是在沒有家庭負擔下才能行這樣的路,但並不是這樣,他們也要生活,還要養家。遇上一對藝術夫婦,二人從事藝術,分別在不同院校兼讀碩士,家中還有三位小朋友及母親要照顧,但這就是他們的路。
路,是為我自己以行,還是要在世俗眼中行?
9 comments:
Dearest
Beware of your inspiration. I've been saying this for months but most people in HK insisted on what they see as 'Reality', a word they overused probably, and 'Eva you are far too Dreamy'.
This is HK. Now I become a RUBBISH in the society. ^0^'
dearest
Eva beware of the City, it's hungry and cold, cant be control, it is mad........
路,是為我自己以行....
這是文化差異, 或是中國人的長久以來的觀念, 作為生活在俗世裡的一個人,在大部份的情況下, 我們有多種角色和功能, 個人的理念可有為, 亦有所不為,自己知道為什麼而為, 便可以. 英雄造時勢,個人力量改變社會型態, 是何等的渺茫.
黃敏
愛身邊的人,使所愛的人不用為生活、未來擔憂,正是很多人生命的意義。
所愛的人這一刻都有能力照顧自己,也願意理解你愛闖愛看世界的夢想,這是你的福氣。但幸福如你,又有幾個?
另容許我問:你又有多願意使你的家人孩子得到這種可以選擇的福氣?好好想一想。
This is your life, live your life la. You have the luxury to choose this life, then please be greedy and enjoy it. Screw those "realisticist" (i made up this word, haha) Dream is part of life, and there's many different pace in life, a la style.
1 yr, 2, 3, as long as you enjoy, please fulfill your dream. And then come back and find another one afterwards
we are lucky, caz we have choice. But not everyone brave enough to put it into action. The choice of life style is most of the luxury. When the time we open our eyes to the world it really give us inspiration of our life.
Passion is part of our life or it will become pale in colour. Someone love pale life, someone love colourful life. At least we can make a choice. Do enjoy what you are having, your life, your love just put the "realistic" aside...may be just a while only, but at least a while! Support you my friend.
Ivy, Wong man, Gen,
Thanks for sharing!
lun
lun
tong,
thanks your sharing too
lun
Pls go and see see Ivy's new entry! Provoking too!
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